Feeling sad is a normal part of life. Sadness comes and goes. Sometimes we don’t know what causes us to be sad. At other times we have specific triggers that spiral us downward into the blues.
Although the holidays can be a time of joyousness and celebration, they can also be a time of stress, worry, overwhelm, and sadness.
Sadness is an emotion that encompasses everything from mild disappointment to extreme despair and anguish. Losing interest in normal daily activities, lacking energy, and having trouble concentrating are typical characteristics of sadness.
The Paseo Club is a social club in the Santa Clarita Valley that supports members in fitness, nutrition, and overall health. We wrote this article because we know that this is the time of year that can bring ups and downs for many of us.
By reading this article, you will learn what the holiday blues are, safe and easy-to-implement tips about how to beat the holiday blues, and when to seek help from a professional.
What are the holiday blues?
The holidays are often a time of high emotion and demands, which can leave you feeling stressed and exhausted — even if you love this time of year.
Some factors can be:
Increased food consumption
Loss of, or change, in routine
Increase alcohol consumption
More social gatherings to attend
Increased responsibilities at work
Increased consumption of unhealthy foods
Increased financial strain to afford gifts and travel
The holidays are fraught with obligations — trips to see distant family, gifts to purchase, and parties to attend. It is easy to get overextended and overstimulated. Creating healthy boundaries and saying no is key to finding balance during the holidays.
Implement white noise (if that is helpful for you)
Not being on a device at least an hour before bed
Rest is equally important, especially if you did not sleep well the night before or are introverted and need to avoid becoming overstimulated. Whether you choose meditation, a quiet walk in nature, or lying down for a catnap, rest is a pathway to quiet the mind and bring a sense of calm.
3. Spend time with friends
You will likely be surrounded by a lot of people during holiday social events. But that is not the same as spending time with your closest buddies.
Friends are often a life raft when things are tough. The holidays are a great time to lean on your friends for support and camaraderie. Meet up to share a meal or a coffee at the cafe, or even just make a phone call.
Having a friend with whom you can speak honestly, vent your frustrations, and laugh at life’s follies is a great way to support your mental health during the holiday season.
4. Stay active, even in short bursts
Your daily routines can change during the holidays. You may be away from home. Maybe your work is closed, or alternately you may be working overtime. Attending all your responsibilities can make you feel too tired to exercise.
6. Eat as healthy as you can, but don’t sweat the indulgences
The holidays are when chefs around the country tie on their aprons and get to work cooking up the most delicious and decadent foods they can think to make. Pie, cakes, cookies, bread, gravies, stuffing, wine, beer, and the list goes on!
It is natural that with so many tempting foods around, we eat more food than usual and more nutrient-poor foods.
If you are the host of a holiday feast, look to emphasize the protein and vegetables in your meal.
Turkey, roast beef, fish, or pork loin are all nourishing choices for your centerpiece. Baked yams or squash, green beans, salad, and sauteed leafy greens are delicious sides that won’t leave you overstuffed.
Even desserts can be somewhat healthy. Select fresh seasonal fruit such as persimmons, pears, apples, and pomegranates. Make low-sugar nut tortes or fruit pies. Pumpkin or sweet potato pie, (with less sugar than usually called for) is high in vitamins, fiber, and healthy fats.
If you are not a host at the meal, offer to bring a healthy side dish and do your best to choose your food — and portions — as best as you can.
If you feel that you have strayed from your regular eating habits — well, welcome to the club! Don’t belabor it. Return to your healthier habits as often, and as soon, as you can.
7. Pamper yourself
Taking extra good care of yourself during the holidays can appear to be a laughable objective. How in the world is that possible, you may wonder.
Easy. Make your goals small and accessible.
Listen to your favorite music
Call a friend and tell them a joke
Play hide and seek with your kids
Go on a walk in your neighborhood, slowly
Make your morning coffee with love and reverence
Exchange shoulder rubs with your partner or a friend
Go to exercise class and sweat it out with your fellow classmates
This period can also be a time to make grander gestures for yourself — attending a concert, receiving a massage from a massage therapist, getting a manicure and pedicure, or scheduling a night at a fancy hotel.
How do you know if you have the holiday blues, and when do you need help?
The holiday blues is characterized as a feeling of sadness that lasts through the holiday season — especially during the months of November and December. Symptoms can include:
Crying more often
Drinking more alcohol than usual
Having no appetite or eating too much
Having trouble sleeping or sleeping too much
Losing interest in activities that you used to enjoy
Therapy with a professional counselor or clinical social worker can help you understand the sources of your sadness and learn how to develop coping strategies for when you feel overwhelmed.
The Paseo Club has been supporting people in their journey to health and wellness for almost twenty years. Members enjoy access to over 60 fitness classes each week, tennis and pickleball courts, and a junior-Olympic pool.
If you would like to join a fitness club that also cares about the community, then the Paseo Club may be just the place for you. Schedule a tour today to check out the facilities and meet staff and instructors.
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Jen Azevedo is a person of many talents. She is a tennis professional, pickleball professional, personal trainer, group exercise instructor, and the general manager of the Paseo Club. She loves the community at the Paseo Club and that it is also a safe and fun place for her daughter. Jen’s favorite activities are joining her tribe for trail races or her partners for tennis matches. Occasionally Jen slows down to relax with a book — she reads over 100 a year!